Wait for him to make the first move. I know, it’s a little old fashioned, but you’re nervous enough! Here are steps to kissing a boy for the first time:
1. Keep your breath fresh. Make sure to brush your tongue each time you brush your teeth, and do both regularly. Drinking lots of water also helps. If you’ll be meeting your guy later, avoid foods with powerful odors like garlic and onions. For a quick freshness boost, keep mints handy but remember that those are only aides to support the good habits above.
2. Signal to your guy that you feel close to him. Try things like: smiling and laughing in conversation, touching his arm and hair, or leaning your head on his shoulder.
3. Start slowly. Send nonverbal signals to let him know what you’re thinking, such as: leaning in towards him or holding his hand and gently tugging it toward you. Don’t hesitate to lean into a hug.
4. Wait for him to respond. If he matches your action, that’s the signal he’s ready. If he doesn’t lean in toward you or turns his head away, the time isn’t right. Do not force the kiss on him; it may make it tougher to get a second kiss.
5. Kiss the guy. Start with a short, closed-mouth kiss. If he responds well, do another short kiss. Continue this, and as long as he’s still into it feel free to start making your kisses longer. Don’t try to move too fast; your guy could misinterpret your intentions and try to get more physical than you’re ready for at the time.
6. How far will you go? Don’t expect too much on your first kiss. A short closed-mouth kiss is a great start. Several is even better. If it goes further than that, congratulations! As long as your guy is responding positively, you can continue to get closer. Open your mouth slightly and see if he does the same. Even if you move to the open-mouth kiss, don’t use your tongue for a while. It’s a whole separate step.
7. If you’ve been open-mouth kissing for a little while, you can try using your tongue. First, gently touch your tongue to his lips as a signal that you want to use your tongue. If he does the same, that’s his signal that it’s okay. Start tracing your tongue slowly and softly over his lips. Make sure any contact between your tongue and his is soft. As you continue to kiss, you can slowly increase the force of your tongue.
8. Throughout the kissing, make sure your hands match what your lips are doing. For short kisses, you could hug him and put your hands around his shoulders. As the kisses get longer and open mouth begins, “safe” areas like arms, shoulders, chest, and legs below the knee are okay. Touching his face at this point is also good. As you start with the tongue, you can include the waist, the legs just above the knee, and maybe his hair.
9. Make sure you and this person have the same feelings for each other. You want to keep kissing for awhile, don’t you?!