A Nigerian military wife, known on TikTok as Everything Woman, has criticised what she describes as the nation’s growing indifference to the deaths of soldiers, following the reported killing of Brigadier Uba in Maiduguri.
In an emotional video posted on Thursday, she said she had spent hours online “waiting to see something that will give me hope,” but was met instead with what she called a troubling nationwide silence.
She contrasted the muted reactions to Brigadier Uba’s death with the deep communal respect once shown to fallen soldiers.
I’ve been online since morning, waiting to see something that will give me hope. So tell me why, till now, everywhere is just quiet like a chicken died?” she asked.
“When I was younger, if a soldier fell, communities and even states closed. Ten thousand men would bury that soldier and escort him to his grave. Now, we lose a Brigadier General and the whole nation is silent as if nothing happened.”
She faulted military families, the government, and ordinary Nigerians for what she described as collective indifference.
Even military wives are quiet. If you stay quiet, it will affect you. Our government is quiet,” she said.
“How have we let it get to this point where they kill a Brigadier General and nothing happens?”
The military wife also spoke about the sacrifices made by families of servicemen, revealing how her hope had always been that her husband would complete his mandatory 35 years of service and return home safely.
My consolation was that after carrying my children alone, attending antenatal appointments and giving birth without him, one day he would serve 35 years and come back,” she said.
“Every birthday missed, every anniversary celebrated alone, every night slept alone, every responsibility done alone, was because I believed one day I would have him back.”
She expressed fear that her husband and others like him may continue serving endlessly without guarantee of safety.
Why does it now seem he might serve forever? That shatters my hope. He might miss every birthday for nothing. He might just die like a bird,” she lamented.
Her comments have sparked conversations online about military welfare, public empathy, and the nation’s response to insecurity.
