
According to a story an acquaintance told me about a young lady whom his family employed as a domestic help, she tested positive for some sexually transmitted infections and was subjected to intensive treatment before she could move into his house.
When she eventually started living with them, she made him so uncomfortable with her habit of staring at his “down there”… of all places?
It got to a point that he dared not leave his room in shorts. He had to put on a long house-wear or trousers and a top.
His favourite wear around the house was briefs, but the girl’s staring put a stop to that.
The needle that broke the camel’s back was when she graduated to the habit of finding excuses to stand before him, with her backside in his view. That’s when he knew he had not brought an innocent girl into his home, and he had impressionable daughters. So, he made the decision to send her away.
He also said that his wife later confessed that the girl was quite rude to her, but she didn’t want to make an issue out of the matter, so she wouldn’t be accused of “feeling insecure around a small girl.”
Once female domestic helps become interested in the man of the house, they secretly start to resent the woman in his life. Their so-called long-suffering in a secret love affair is borne out of fear, not virtue.
In fact, nobody constitutes a danger to a man’s family like the house help he is sleeping with. If she loses her mind over him, his family will pay dearly for it.
Another friend shared his personal experience with me not long ago.
He had just relocated to Nigeria with his wife, who was mentally unwell. A young lady was recommended to him as a domestic help. She moved in with them, and one thing led to another, and he had repeated sexual encounters with her.
Their affair produced a child. The lady then began to want more; marital commitments, perhaps, from him.
He made it clear that he would not be able to offer her what she was looking for because he already had a wife to whom he was bound for life.
He said that the next thing he knew, the lady began to act irrationally. Sometimes, he would be having intimate moments with his wife in their bedroom, and the lady would appear from nowhere to disrupt them.
Even when their door was locked, she would find a way to raise a false alarm about something, just to interrupt whatever was happening in that room.
She became too stressful for him to handle, and he had to involve the police and her family. He took full responsibility for the child involved, but it was decided that the lady had to leave his house.
She did as instructed by the police but took her own life shortly after.
The child now lives with him and his wife.
What did not surprise me was when he mentioned that she had been hostile to his wife.
I also know that by the time she began to lose her mind, his wife, or even he himself, could have paid dearly for her continued presence in their space.
I wish men who frolic with their domestic helps knew how much danger they are bringing upon their families, especially their spouses, who are often the targets of envy and resentment from such individuals.
One of the stories I heard from someone I know happened on the day she mediated in a quarrel between her two sales girls. Both are young ladies in their 20s, although one is said to have been married before and has children.
She said that when both ladies went for each other’s jugular with insults, they began to expose each other’s secrets. That was when one divulged the other’s plans to seduce their madam’s husband.
The potential seductress was quoted as saying, “Madam thinks she is keeping us away from her husband, but when I’m ready for him, he will it forget about her.”
As many men are helping themselves sexually to their domestic helps, it’s important they are aware of the level of sexually transmitted infections these girls carry, often unknowingly, until subjected to medical tests.
Many households now carry out routine medical tests on their domestic helps, but the alarming reality lies in the results of these tests, which often come back positive for all sorts of sexually transmitted infections.
Someone’s domestic help tested positive for HIV/AIDS, and when her employers informed her, she broke down in tears and claimed she had been married to a woman who couldn’t have children. That marital arrangement, she said, gave her the leeway to sleep with any man who could get her pregnant. She had three children (from different men) for her “husband.”